A few weeks ago I was working with Emily Leeder a student midwife who has since completed her training and has now finished her time at my trust . I really like Emily she totally gets me and my sense of humour and she has picked up some of my traits – which is strange but lovely to see – I feel that when I do retire I will leave a little bit of me within Emily’s practice . Emily also inspired this blog CLICK HERE TO READ about the importance of appropriate touch in midwifery .
We both saw the positive effect of a small glass of a well known energy drink (NOT Redbull!) made flat by stirring profusely and how women who hadn’t eaten in labour felt better after it . We christened it our ‘chemistry set recipe’ for an energy boost in labour .
When we worked together we automatically shared roles and I think that neither of us felt controlled or ruled by the other – we were there for the women and supported them but we were in harmony as future midwife and midwife . Emily taught me the true meaning of mentorship as she messaged me for support and also wrote me lovely feedback for my revalidation. I gelled with her and never felt judged by her or unable to ask if she knew something I didn’t .
A few weeks ago we were with a woman who was at the start of her journey to becoming a mother . With this wonderful woman was her partner and her mum . We were having a discussion about skin to skin and delayed cord clamping and I asked the woman’s mum if she had experienced skin to skin contact at birth with her children. The mum said “not really , my baby was born then weighed , measured and checked by another midwife , whilst the birth midwife was helping me to birth my placenta and check if I needed stitches – which I didn’t – so then I was told to have a shower . Within half an hour I was transferred to the postnatal ward ”
My reply was off the cuff and I didn’t realise how funny it was until Emily had to leave the room crying in laugher .
I said “a shower ? You gave up skin to skin contact because someone told you to have a shower ?! We are mammals – imagine other mammals giving birth and being forced to wash within an hour of birth . In fact right here right now let’s just imagine an elephant giving birth to a baby elephant cub and one of the female elephants shouting out ‘Get into that river now & wash !’ It just wouldn’t happen would it – no one would argue with a newly birthed elephant mum would they ? ”
It really doesn’t seem as funny now but it’s left a great memory for me , Emily and the family – and the woman gave birth and did NOT get pushed into the shower at all . In fact she chose to have a wash a bout three hours later , after LOTS of skin to skin with her newborn ❤️
Thank you Emily for helping me with my journey as a mentor – I’m always learning and I wish you well at your new NHS trust – keep in touch
This is my first ever scheduled blog and it’s for three reasons
1. Today will be the third anniversary of the day I started presenting to raise awareness of skin to skin contact – you can read the storify of the day HERE or just search #MAMMevent on Twitter
2. I will be presenting at Coventry midwifery Society today the # will be #CovBF17
3. To thank Sheena Byrom OBE for believing in me as a public speaker and also for friendship and kindness when life was tough for me .
I am proud to be a midwife
Love from Jenny xx 😘
3 thoughts on “The future midwife and the midwife ”
Our hospital started doing this last year and it’s going well!
Love your response to the shower! 🙂
I am so glad Sheena gave you the confidence to speak 3 years ago – mums world, babies world and partners world and we (mideives) are all better for it.
What a great story about mentorship #youmakeadifference
Also, to hear the ludicrousness of showering straight after birth reminded me of another reaction of my US #SkinToSkin buddy – who was literally shocked to hear that all our women shower before coming up to the ward #timeforchange
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Thank you so much – I really appreciate all feedback and I will miss Emily as she starts her future in midwifery – I know she’ll be a compassionate caring midwife x